tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post2570043702604935755..comments2021-04-10T02:16:14.639-04:00Comments on Ummi of Aami, muslimah mommy!: The pot calling the kettle blackUmm Aaminahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16099550741683256476noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-21442161217856736822011-05-14T15:44:01.439-04:002011-05-14T15:44:01.439-04:00Ummm I don't know what happened to all of the ...Ummm I don't know what happened to all of the comments on here!!!! Sr. Halima brought it to my attention; I saw in my blogger dashboard that I had a lot of comments to moderate... maybe I deleted them? :-(<br /><br />Sorry to my sisters if I deleted your comments; I'm going to go to my dashboard now and see what happened, if I can undo it. <br /><br />Thanks, Sr. Halima, for the heads up. Wow, that's never happened to me before. :-)Umm Aaminahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16099550741683256476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-20587512191085055472011-05-14T10:29:34.183-04:002011-05-14T10:29:34.183-04:00Wa alaykum salaam,
Alhamdulillah you realize your...Wa alaykum salaam,<br /><br />Alhamdulillah you realize your own mistakes. That is very important. I was more shocked to be honest bout your story of the lady and her daughter, Subhan'Allah.Umm Minihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08040148474984736492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-50938704659576631382011-05-12T12:00:44.533-04:002011-05-12T12:00:44.533-04:00I left a comment before but I guess Blogger ate it...I left a comment before but I guess Blogger ate it up. I had just wanted to tell you bravo for admitting your faults and realizing your mistakes. We all are judgmental at times but Alhumdulillah, we can ask for forgiveness and pray that Allah purifies our thoughts and actions and helps change our hearts. It was an extremely raw post but extremely brave of you to own up to it {and in such a public forum, too!}.<br /><br />Aameen to all the duas.HijabiMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09431302057548461386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-29567832924817725572011-05-11T23:19:29.978-04:002011-05-11T23:19:29.978-04:00It took a lot of exercise and a lot of not eating ...It took a lot of exercise and a lot of not eating bread! Now that i'm nearly seven months pregnant and gaining weight like crazy I suspect that i'll have to start all over over again once he's here!<br /><br />Just take it slow, people who rush it nearly always gain it back. A little less fat here, a little more water here and if you can start walking so much the better :)Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04992094230981699840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-29853221996086189342011-05-11T22:28:58.102-04:002011-05-11T22:28:58.102-04:00Salamz-
Well, I appreciate your honesty- and I al...Salamz-<br /><br />Well, I appreciate your honesty- and I also acknowledge that alot of your observations are true.<br />But just remember- there are alot of fat Arab women as well, hehe! You know, the one's whose posteriors cannot possibly be hidden under any abaya! I have even heard (fat) Arab Muslimas say "Arab men love fat women"! ho ho ho.<br />On the subject of weight- I have even heard some ask "What about all the fat sheikhs and religious scholars- are they sinning because they're over-weight?"- yeah.Halimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15548934024115676017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-19262652039592549152011-05-11T20:15:33.142-04:002011-05-11T20:15:33.142-04:00Sr. Bonnie, well said! You know, that thought cros...Sr. Bonnie, well said! You know, that thought crossed my mind as well. While for the most part I am happy with myself, obviously I do not like my weight and assume others have preconceived ideas about me as well.<br /><br />I am so impressed you managed to lose 90 lbs!!! I just realized, to be at my physician targeted weight, I should lose 100 lbs. To get to Umm Aaminah comfort level, I need to lose 70 lbs. Yikes!!!!!Umm Aaminahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16099550741683256476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-7406476543272711462011-05-11T18:04:39.816-04:002011-05-11T18:04:39.816-04:00The thing is with weight is that it of course has ...The thing is with weight is that it of course has come a societal expectation. Thin-good fat-bad. I lost 90 pounds through a lot of hard work and to many people that was what finally gave me worth. Before when I was hugely fat was when I would judge others for being the same but once I lost the weight I also lost the prejudice. Sometimes what we dislike msot about ourselves we also dislike most in others because we see our faults mirrored bsck.Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04992094230981699840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-88744344866880239192011-05-11T14:53:44.064-04:002011-05-11T14:53:44.064-04:00Oh Sr. June, funny story. :-) I used to work with ...Oh Sr. June, funny story. :-) I used to work with a woman I really disliked and the feeling was mutual. She was just dismissive of me.<br /><br />I ended up losing about 30 lbs (due to end stage renal failure) and one day she starts talking to me. I was kinda dumbfounded UNTIL she got around to the inevitable:<br /><br />"You look so great! How did you lose weight?"<br /><br />Uh huh. So before I was nothing and now cause I dropped a couple I'm suddenly worthwhile? Nah, don't think so. I answered pretty snarkily that I had a terminal illness and it tends to help the weight fly right off. I laughed and went on my way! lolUmm Aaminahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16099550741683256476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-21925228988697220842011-05-11T14:51:25.906-04:002011-05-11T14:51:25.906-04:00Jazakum Allahu khair my sisters! Thanks for all of...Jazakum Allahu khair my sisters! Thanks for all of your words of understanding and support. <br /><br />I think I am still surprised I felt that way because I know a lot of my sisters (both IRL and online) struggle with weight issues. INCLUDING myself, as mentioned. :-) These are sisters I look up to for their kindness, their iman, and their knowledge. <br /><br />I almost didn't post this because I felt it would open up a lot of controversy or hurt someone's feelings. NEVER my intention. And for sure, if I were not fat myself, I would never have admitted this. <br /><br />May Allah make me more conscious of my actions and thoughts, amin.Umm Aaminahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16099550741683256476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-2824516219081557902011-05-11T14:27:46.479-04:002011-05-11T14:27:46.479-04:00Salams! I know what you're talking about. The...Salams! I know what you're talking about. The sister who learns about Islam through the one she's in love with. It can be kind of sad if he's not practicing himself. I have this issue in my in-laws family. There's this spanish girl, engaged to a member of the family, and she converted to Islam, but he doesn't pray, so she only understands the importance of Islam by his standard. We've tried to help educate her, but if it's not a priority for him, then it isn't to her either. In all fairness though, I myself converted because my now husband of 9 years (masha'Allah) introduced me to Islam. I was pretty similar to them, taking my Islam only as far as he did, but alhamdulillah, he was VERY practicing. But I still didn't "get" it until I moved to Egypt and spent some time apart from him where I truly discovered Islam for myself, some 7 years ago. Alhamdulillah, learning Islam for myself has made me the muslim I am today. Sorry for turning this into a post on your blog. Maybe what I'm trying to say is that even if these sisters don't take it seriously in the beginning, that doesn't mean they won't eventually. It all depends on what Allah has planned. May Allah help us not to judge eachother at first glance, Ameen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-30358046773364674662011-05-11T13:47:33.224-04:002011-05-11T13:47:33.224-04:00Alhamdulillah, even though this is something that ...Alhamdulillah, even though this is something that you feel bad about, it's good that you acknowledge it and are trying to combat it. You are definitely not alone in these feelings; it reminds me of that song from Avenue Q that says "everyone's a little bit racist (or sexist or ableist or any other kind of negative -ism) sometimes". I know I sometimes have these thoughts that I know are not befitting for a Muslim (or any good human being) to have. I forgot the actual wording, but my Muslim chaplain told me a hadith where the Prophet (saw) said that a certain man was granted blessings from ALLAH because everyday he would pray "ALLAH, please remove the evil feelings I have towards people from my heart". Subhanallah, I love this du'a, and it's a good thing to keep in mind if you ever get angry, jealous, frustrated, etc.Banana Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05199135544354929727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-37020839565658916662011-05-11T13:44:56.440-04:002011-05-11T13:44:56.440-04:00Asalaam Alaikum sis
Nothing to say really as you ...Asalaam Alaikum sis<br /><br />Nothing to say really as you already know how wrong it is and its good that you know how wrong it is.<br /><br />I wouldnt be so hard on yourself... everyone can be judgemental, some without realising it or admitting it.... at least you have. <br /><br />Ameen to your dua, inshAllah your attitude will change. xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11602612415915232809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-64803711253990561452011-05-11T13:05:50.985-04:002011-05-11T13:05:50.985-04:00Assalamu Aleykum dear sister,
Well I'm fat bu...Assalamu Aleykum dear sister,<br /><br />Well I'm fat but not enraged don't worry :)<br />I have to confess something as well.I've always said (and meant it), "I will never marry a revert/convert because I don't trust them.What if he changes his mind and comes back to his previous way of life???"<br />See how ironic it is, as I'm a revert myself.Maybe it is because I have myself always struggled hard to keep my practice of Islam to what I think is an "acceptable" level.I guess life experiences just create some kind of automatic behaviors or thoughts that we should try to keep in control.Hope this makes sense :)<br /><br />Love from your faaaaaaaaaaaaat sister (yes call me an ambulance shooter ) :)Um Zakaryahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10607028612539180583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-58913962647658647152011-05-11T11:14:13.942-04:002011-05-11T11:14:13.942-04:00As salaamu aleikum sister... I am fat, (and a reve...As salaamu aleikum sister... I am fat, (and a revert), but I'm not going to have a go at you, because your reaction is so normal. I have had the experience of having lost a lot of weight and suddenly finding that my opinions are much more interesting to people than they were when I was fat...and ,conversely, having regained the weight...(weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth...) I am suddenly chopped liver again..!<br />I don't know if it's a cultural thing or what, but it's certainly not unusual.<br /> I myself am guilty sometimes of feeling dismissive when I see comments from someone who is very young..and yet they be far more knowledgeable about Islam than me..<br />Al hamdulillah ,Allah has given us the ability to reflect on things and to examine our hearts in order to change our attitudes..with His help..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04874591152050666772noreply@blogger.com