tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post5839309883033118800..comments2021-04-10T02:16:14.639-04:00Comments on Ummi of Aami, muslimah mommy!: I am a cowardUmm Aaminahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16099550741683256476noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-70889929241631086942011-02-01T08:24:54.493-05:002011-02-01T08:24:54.493-05:00As Salaam Alaikum, I have the same situation as w...As Salaam Alaikum, I have the same situation as well. I can think of things in my head that I want to say and tell my parents but when I am put on the spot I cannot think of anything proper and I go all quiet. May Allah help us all to give dawah to our loved ones and be good examples for them. Ameen.MaryAnnhttp://thisthatwhatever.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-33201681264012824502011-01-31T18:50:11.788-05:002011-01-31T18:50:11.788-05:00Jazaki Allah khair Um Z for the advice. Maybe A ca...Jazaki Allah khair Um Z for the advice. Maybe A can speak with them...<br /><br />Sis Iman thanks for the info. My font is a little light but maybe there is an issue with your computer screen or lighting as well. Insha'Allah I'll work on it;' really I get frustrated when I can't read the font on a blog. :-) Thanks sis!Umm Aaminahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16099550741683256476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-82335101066583714992011-01-31T18:44:12.279-05:002011-01-31T18:44:12.279-05:00I can totally, totally relate. I had a dream the o...I can totally, totally relate. I had a dream the other night that my mom converted to Islam and I was like in tears just imagining such a wonderful thing. She is not even a Christian. She is a neo-pagan-secular-humanist, at best. She believes everything and nothing, calls herself hyperspiritual, but she is really just lost and confused on exactly what she believes. I don't have the guts to try to give her dawah, partially because she doesnt take my choice of Islam seriously and is convinced it is a passing phase.Um Dayohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04745636563521355726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-90938037116121289092011-01-31T16:26:27.234-05:002011-01-31T16:26:27.234-05:00Assalamu Alaikum sister.
It is very hard to read y...Assalamu Alaikum sister.<br />It is very hard to read your blog because the background is so dark and your letters are not bright enough. I want to read but I am like tilting my pc every which way in order to read, unless there is something wrong with my viewing from my side...<br />Jazak Allah Khair. <br /><br />I too am American Muslimah and have non-Muslim family.Imanhttp://www.habibimatrimonials.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-32036411514174071392011-01-31T11:45:22.009-05:002011-01-31T11:45:22.009-05:00Assalamu Aleykum dear sister,
I know what you fee...Assalamu Aleykum dear sister,<br /><br />I know what you feel.I always make dawah with my mom as I lvie with her and we're really close, kinda "best ennemies" lol, but I find it hard to talk about Islam with the other members of my family, unless they do ask about it.<br /><br />I guess it's indeed because they are our so close to us, that we don't want to hurt them in anyway, and would like to keep smooth relationships with them.Maybe you could get your husband to talk to them a bit, as it might be easier for him to do so?Um Zakaryahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10607028612539180583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-20269531746673513912011-01-31T11:17:36.645-05:002011-01-31T11:17:36.645-05:00Jazakum Allahu khairan my sisters. I appreciate al...Jazakum Allahu khairan my sisters. I appreciate all the good advice and awwww thanks for making me feel better. :-)<br /><br />@ Renee, insha'Allah I'll check out his dawah series.<br /><br />You know when someone asks me about Islam I have absolutely no problem to say the correct thing, to bring out the beauty of tauheed and Islam but with my family, the ones I love the most.... well you all know. May Allah bless us and guide us all...<br /><br />JeannaUmm Aaminahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16099550741683256476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-19596252133387085872011-01-31T06:21:52.463-05:002011-01-31T06:21:52.463-05:00Salaam Alaikum sis,
I know its easy to blame your...Salaam Alaikum sis,<br /><br />I know its easy to blame yourself and feel bad for the outcome of the conversation, but it happens to us all. The best thing to do is ask yourself why you feel shy to discuss islam with your mom and think of ways to make dawah to her the next time. I was the same way with my parents! I used to feel shy when talking about islam and felt that if i brought it up they would feel annoyed or think i was insulting them by claiming islam is the correct religion. There is an excellent dawah series by bilal philips and he gives a lot of tips on how to make good dawah and keep the topic on tawheed.<br />Even if you dont want to talk about religion you could talk about nature for example, or the universe and bring the conversation to tawheed and how islam is the only relion left that still believes in tawheed,etc.<br />Heres the link to bilal philps dawah training video. Its really good and I think all muslims can benefit from it!<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTAa1Cvn9ZsRene´s Bare Essentialshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16308212836561045324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-38632112634403377582011-01-31T04:55:59.139-05:002011-01-31T04:55:59.139-05:00Essalam Alaikum, I can totally relate to this post...Essalam Alaikum, I can totally relate to this post. I have tried all methods of dawah with all of my family members. It's not an easy situations, but it's one that we all think about. I think what you wrote was great and supportive, the "pushy, you are wrong and are going to hell" has been exploited by the church so much that people especially in the States don't even take it a bit seriously anymore. I think your approach was the best you could have offered... Don't beat yourself up sis, just stay positive and keep them in your dua'a. *hugs!* Don't forget, what I think and try to focus on the most, Allah guides those who WANT to be guided. There isn't much you can do besides be a good example, have excellent manners and make tons of dua'a.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16236457671838790594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-15024995142410328252011-01-31T03:54:16.734-05:002011-01-31T03:54:16.734-05:00but what else could you have said sis? I think you...but what else could you have said sis? I think your comment was great, not too jokingly as you say you dont want to disrespect everyone else... you wrote a different religion and specified which one you thought.. if you werent being 'cowardly' what would you have written??Adventurous Ammenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06130257311389290780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-75778508867430456182011-01-30T23:39:14.725-05:002011-01-30T23:39:14.725-05:00Salaam alaikum,
I would have done the exact same...Salaam alaikum, <br /><br />I would have done the exact same thing as you. I am a HUGE coward when it comes to talking about my faith. When my parents inquire about my religious beliefs/practices, I pretty much always deny that I am a Muslim (Astaghfirullah) just to keep the peace. Astaghfirullah, sometimes I even feel embarrassed asking for special accommodations like taking time out to pray or asking if certain foods are halal. <br /><br />The one thing I try to remember is that dawah doesn't (even shouldn't) be in-your-face. I came to Islam through my own accord, without feeling pressured to do so or made to feel bad about my previous beliefs, and I am grateful for that. If I made myself seem superior for being Muslim and that everyone who isn't is a terrible person (NOT true), that would do nothing but hurt people's feelings and make them think that Muslims are self-righteous jerks. I just try to live my life unapologetically as a Muslim, answer any questions people may have about Islam, and leave it at that. Insha'Allah, ALLAH will give us all guidance, Muslims and non-Muslims (another thing I've realized: just because one is Muslim, even a faithful practicing Muslim, DOES NOT AT ALL mean that we are not in need of guidance).Banana Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05199135544354929727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480626322443867152.post-51402949444339680732011-01-30T23:32:18.982-05:002011-01-30T23:32:18.982-05:00I find the same thing. I am either to forceful wit...I find the same thing. I am either to forceful with my father or I say nothing.<br /><br />-PixieOmani Princess (not Omani...yet)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11738377563210269837noreply@blogger.com