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August 21, 2011

What do you wear in your home?


*At Sr. Ahsan's suggestion, I removed the photo of a classical painting depicting a woman in a Turkish hammam (public bath). It was Islamically inappropriate in that it showed her awrah and I thank the sister for speaking up. :-)*

A'salaamu alaikum ya'll. After a conversation with a friend I was wondering what other wear in their home? I feel like I might be a little weird, now, based on her laughter. I always wear a long dress (usually sleeveless, tho, I get hot easy) and most often with light, stretchy pants under it but not always. I have a couple of "house-dresses" I wear that are actually made for out and about but aren't too hijab friendly for me.

On the rare occasion I wear a shirt, it comes to my knees and then I wear pants with it. Sometimes I do wear a denim skirt and kameez shirt in the house but to be honest I generally don't go to all the trouble.

I guess I get a kick out of all the old paintings and descriptions of a seraglio and the scantily-clad women. Also in a book written by an American reporter about women in Islam (I won't give the title a shout-out) she described being invited to a part in the middle east where the before burka'd women were in transparent negligees, their lack of hair apparent. I was like LOL yeah right! I hate it when the media panders the to appetites of the masses.

And this was supposed to be in KSA if memory serves. Anyway I really doubt the veracity of her claims and I am pretty sure most of my readers dress in a somewhat similiarly modest fashion.

So, what do you guys wear in the home?

17 comments:

iMuslimah said...

Jeans and tank top or a long sleeveless night shirt to the knees lol. No fashion awards here lol.

Muslim Convert said...

Salam Umm Aaminah

I asked my husband about you not being able to comment on some blogs, he says he's not familiar with blogger so he's not sure, I guess the only thing to do would be to contact the help centre which is on your home page at the bottom.

As for your post, right now I'm wearing yoga pants and a t shirt, I always wear pants or shorts at home, we have baby gates to jump over and skirts wouldn't work. I'm usually always cold and my husband and kids are always warm so many times I have a sweatshirt close by because the window is always open. I dress comfy at home, lol it's not that exciting. The negligees that the reporter talked about seeing in Saudi may be exagerated but not too far off, the dresses at women's parties can be very tight short and bedazzled, this really depends on how religious the family is though some might show up in barely anything under their jacket, while others won't show anything above the knee and will keep the cleavage hidden. That's how it was in Syria anyways.

Banana Anne said...

I wear whatever I want when I'm at home (i.e. in my dorm room). Usually I just rip off my jilbab and wear whatever was underneath it (usually jeans or sweatpants and a shirt). Sometimes I'll just throw on my pajamas. If it's really hot, I'll wear a short sleeveless nightgown.

If I may ask, is there a reason you dress so modestly at home (knee-length shirts and pants, long dresses, etc.)? Is it personal preference, or religious?

♡ αmαℓ said...

Pajamas LOL

Aishah said...

I wear shalwar kameez, almost exclusively. When we are alone in PK(DH, DS, and I) I will sometimes wear the lawn suits, but I have to change if we have any male guests as lawn can be very sheer. I just keep the dupatta draped over the top of my head and will wrap it properly if there is a guy in the house(guest, BIL, or FIL). Now that we are in UAE, the dupatta is wrapped anytime I leave my room cause of BIL/FIL. I don't wear short sleeves, even when alone, though I will push up the sleeves a bit if there is nobody around.

I think the author of the book might not be exaggerating too much, we have a cousin over here who goes to Emirate weddings occasionally and her descriptions of the "dresses" that some people wear sound like little more than a piece of tissue and a couple straps. Not everybody of course, but it does happen.

Mona Z said...

I love viscose caftans, they're the epitome of comfort in warm weather. They're cool but they're not cooool, you know, I'm dressed like Mrs. Roper. Otherwise I wear sweats and tshirts or capris(cotton) and t's. If friends are coming over I'll wear jeans and a top but that's not so often.

LostFan said...

I usually wear gauchos or capri pants with oversized t-shirts. Sometimes I'll wear hubby's boxers, but that will stop when the kid(s) are older (right now she's 10 months :-).

Rene´s Bare Essentials said...

Salaam Alaikum,

Our apartment gets very hot in the summer (perfect during the winter) and since we dont have AC (not that common in Spain) I usually wear shorts and a tank top. I have my abayah and hijab hanging up in the front closet in case someone comes to the door. I also love to wear capris and t-shirts. In the winter Im usually lounge around in yoga pants and a sweater. I think if I was living with my In-laws Id be more conservative and wear long shirts with cropped pants or long dresses with short sleeves or a sweater over it. Since its just me, my hubby and 1 year-old I wear whatever. Once shes older Ill make sure I stay away from tank tops and shorts and wear more conservative clothing around the house!

Umm Aaminah said...

Salaam girls and loving all the comments! Nice to know I'm not the only one sporting comfy clothing.

Specifically at Sr. Anne, I dress this modestly in our home for a couple of reasons. One my husband culturally is used to the women wearing dresses in the house although they wore sleeves. ;-) Also since we are a blended family and I have a stepson right at that age, I personally feel better keeping myself covered.

Also, being overweight, I just don't like how my body looks in shorter shirts. I feel the longer line is much more attractive one me. Hope that answers your question!

I'm not so suprised at how they dress in women's parties unfortunately, but in the book she specifically said they were all lounging around in transparent negligees which showed their private parts. LOL That I find much harder to believe. :-D

Elisa said...

Salaam!! I think is a fun post to really find out what sisters are wearing behind closed doors! LoL
As for me, when I'm at home I'm usually in pajamas. This is right now while I'm living in my parents home. Sometimes I'll wear a comfy house dress.
When I was living with my husband in our own apartment I would either be in pajamas or a cute, little summer dress. My husband would want me to dress "sexy" for him. HaHaHa Also, I find it fun to dress up for the husband. After all, we can't go out in public with such little clothing so why not when it's just you and the hubby? LoL

Umm Aaminah said...

Salaam sis. I agree; if you are able to dress up prettily for your husband and you enjoy it, you should. However, when you have issues like older kids, etc. then it's behind closed doors only!

I think it's difficult to balance dressing attractively for your husband while keeping modesty level where they should be, especially considering older children. :-) Glad you found something that worked for you!

Ma salaama...

Ahsan said...

you should remove this pic i would suggest sister.

Umm Aaminah said...

A'salaamu alaikum Sr. Ahsan. At your suggestion, I did remove the photo. I asked my husband's opinion and he too thought it might be best to remove it.

As I do intend my blog to be Islamically correct (while showcasing my daily life) I felt your suggestion was the correct one.

Thank you for speaking up; jazaki allahu khair.

This, for anyone caring to read the comments, is a wonderful way to give nasiha (good advice). Not in a bad manner or with rude words but simply and politely. Ma salaama...

Candice said...

We have a roommate (man) who doesn't spend any time with and who we only see when he walks in the door to go to his room, but because of that I have to stay modest in the home and I wear the same as outside. When it's time for sleep, I take off a layer and sleep in my undies or something. If we had no chance of a man coming in the house at any time, I'd wear booty shorts and a tank top in warm times and jogging pants in colder times.

DD said...

If I can say, I wear tight, short clothes at home. I'm young and fit and am proud of my body so I like wearing things that show it off, even if only to myself :P I do have those daggy clothes days however. But, for the most part, i definitely do not dress modestly at home.

Umm Aaminah said...

Candice and DD, if ya got and (in your home) you wanna flaunt it, go ahead!

DD masha'allah you are young yeah and deserve to enjoy yourself.:-)

Umm Ibrahim said...

Ummm...I lived in Saudi for a year as an expat with my family and went to 2 Saudi womens parties and I can tell you, many of the women dress to the nines in almost nothing, tons of makeup, hair done, nails done...everything...its a bit extreme...I'll be frank...but then again, Ive been to weddings in Iran where girls (usually young women, unmarried) show up in extremely-extremely skimpy attire, generally married women dont...but by skimpy I mean...borderline obscene and these are girls from "religious" families who wear chador when otuside...not "irreligious" girls...but its mostly cuz they wanna get older womens attention to get a husband...LOL...but in Saudi...it was married women who would dress in almost nothing and it was a bit over the top...i'll be frank. Not all, but some do.