|Very traditional Tunisian building with blue doors|
That leaves me moving to Tunisia with my husband, that's where. It's a difficult decision in some ways; missing my sons, my country, my language. As most of ya'll know, Arabic and French are the two main languages there. My husband's family also speaks Arabic and French but hardly any of them speak English, especially not fluently. Hmmmm. I like to talk. I can see an issue. :-)
OK I think I'll resort my to listing the pros and cons. Which isn't really that helpful because of course, wherever my husband goes, I will follow insha'Allah.
Let's list the good points first. I like to be positive. These are in no particular order, btw.
1. Aaminah will insha'Allah become fluent in Arabiy. Big plus!
2. I have always had this restlessness in me, this drive to travel, see more, do more. I think living in North Africa will be exciting in many ways.
3. I will no longer be solely responsible for my stepchildren. This is a big relief to me in many ways, may Allah forgive me. It's been trying for me and I would be happy to have more of an aunt-like role with them.
4. I will insha'Allah be able to forge true relationships with my new family overseas.
5. Insha'allah I'll be able to learn Arabiy myself and also take many different classes.
6. I can be involved in dawah efforts as this is a huge interest of my husband's.
7. I'll have more free time to pursue things which I enjoy and also just to spend with Aaminah.
8. We'll have a true home with room to grow and have some privacy.
9. Easy to find Islamic clothing. OK sounds flimsy but it IS nice to not search high and low for modest clothes. :-)
10. Being in a Muslim-majority country where you don't have to explain what Eid is or why you fast Ramadhan. Oh so many reasons!
11. My husband would be so happy to be home again.
12. Paring down and living more simply. See #7 below for the con of this. lol
So here are the less-than-idea points:
1. Lack of privacy. Not sure if our house is connected to the "big" house or not. I think there would be communal meals, etc. Which would mean my husband sitting with the men and me with the women. I wouldn't like that.
2. Missing my family and my country. Also my freedom. It just won't be the same overseas as it is here (duh) and I would miss a lot of what I take for granted.
3. Language barrier. Yeah. India was difficult as I only had Abu Aaminah to communicate with for 6 weeks. And he was with me 24/7 for those 6 weeks. Not looking forward to it.
4. Healthcare. As ya'll know I have health issues that require hospitalizations and lots of medications.
5. Food. I am weird about milk, cheese, and meat. I can forsee a vegetarian future for me. Waaaaah!
6. Not sure if I would be driving and if it's similar to here.
7. Going through all our stuff and getting rid of sooo much. It will be hard and a little difficult for me to part with sentimental things; an antique wooden trunk, a favorite platter, handmade momentos. Ya can't take it all!
8. Not living in the green hill/valley/lake/river/woods/stream landscape. THIS will be difficult.
I know many of these can be put to rest by more talking between me and A. We have only spoken about it in general terms so far and these are some of the things I've been thinking of that I need to clarify. It's definitely a life change and one I am, despite the possible issues, looking forward to. At least for a year or so, long term.... I just don't know how I will fit in.
Any of my sisters who have made hijrah/moved overseas, please share some of your most trying AND most rewarding experiences. Jazakum Allahu khair!!!